Transforming love

Love is simple. Love is a feeling. Something you express to someone else. Unfortunately, the phrase “I love you” has become less meaningful. It won’t be long before that wonderful phrase is nothing more than a conversation filler. Do people really understand the role love plays in relationships? Don’t they see how it has the ability to change as the relationship matures?

I’ve been in a relationship with the same guy for four years, and my love for him has taken on a new meaning. I’ve witnessed different types of relationships: one-night hookups, serious romances that last anywhere from a few months to several years, and lifelong partnerships like the one my grandparents have. In each one, love is expressed differently. The younger you are, the more unaware you’ll are about love’s true meaning.

Love isn’t just something you say. It’s something you feel. Love can be tricky. People can fake love just to gain a physical benefit. Fortunately, I’ve never been deceived in love. My boyfriend and I have gone through many stages of love during our relationship.


We began our relationship when we were 16 years old. Our love was a mere infatuation/ puppy love. We were inseparable. In the first several months, a couple spends all their time soaking up information about each other. This honeymoon phase is a great kick-starter for any relationship. Then as time goes on the love deepens into passionate love. The relationship is no longer based on infatuation. On the downside, passionate love brings forth arguments. This is the time when the couple is learning to accept flaws.

Finally, after you’ve dated the same person for long enough you enter into compassionate love. This is my favorite kind of love. This is the point where a friendship within a relationship is established. You accept each other completely and can operate without spending every minute together. In addition, physical and emotional aspects are balanced.

My boyfriend and I entered compassionate love when we began our separate journeys. I stayed in Kansas to attend junior college while he moved to Nashville to study music. Being a part was extremely painful, but it transformed our relationship. We became independent. Distance does make the heart grow fonder. Being a part for months at a time made us cherish the time together.

If I’ve learned anything, it’s that love doesn’t stay the same, it matures as the relationship progresses. Being in a relationship has not only allowed me to get to know my boyfriend but learn more about myself, too.


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