Dating is similar to trying on a pair of new shoes. You try them on and walk around a bit to see how they feel. If they squeeze your toes or hurt your soles, you’ll take them off and select a different pair instead. When you finally find the perfect shoes that feel comfortable, you buy them. The process of dating is nearly an identical. You meet someone, test the waters with common interests and casual flirting and then if all goes well you date that person. I always thought this concept was simple, straightforward. But I was terribly wrong – it’s complicated and messy. There is much more to buying a pair of shoes or choosing to date someone. What happens down the road when the shoes start to feel tight and uncomfortable? Are you supposed to just toss them out? Regardless of all the memories you made while you had them? How do you know when it’s time to let go?
I think I’ve been wearing too tight of shoes for a long time, but I can’t seem to let them go. These shoes that been my rock and my foundation for the last several years. How do you get rid of a pair of shoes you’ve become so emotionally, physically and mentally attached to? The answer is: you won’t be able to without heartbreak.
Then, of course, there’s the idea of other pairs of shoes. There will be many pairs of shoes that will appear while you’re wearing the pair that you originally purchased. You may begin to think, “Hey, those are really nice I think I want to own a pair of those instead.” What happens if you desire another pair of shoes while still wearing the pair you have? Is it possible to be in love with two pairs of shoes at once? They’re different and each pair could fulfill and satisfy your needs in alternative ways.
Nonetheless, just like in life you can’t have things both ways. So no, you can’t buy and wear both pairs of shoes at the same time. A decision has to be made and one pair of shoes will have to suffer the consequence of that decision. It will be extremely hard at first. You’ll continue to reminisce about the memories you had with the old shoes and sometimes your mind will take you to the point of regretting your decision. Eventually, however, you’ll become accustomed to walking barefoot. You’ll learn more about yourself and continue to grow and prepare yourself for the next pair of shoes that catch your eye. Soon a time will come when you look back and remember the old pair of shoes and how they will always hold a special place in your heart.