Dating is similar to trying on shoes. You try on a pair and walk around to see how they feel. If they squeeze your toes or hurt your soles, you remove them and try a different size or kind. When you find a comfortable pair of shoes, you buy them. Dating is identical. You meet someone, test the waters and if all goes well you date that person. This concept always appeared simple, but I was wrong: it’s messy and complicated because there’s a lot more to buying shoes/choosing to date someone. What happens down the road when the shoes feel tight and uncomfortable? Are you supposed to toss them out, regardless of the memories you made while you had them? How do you know when it’s time to let go?
I think I’ve been wearing shoes that are too tight for a long time, but I can’t seem to let them go. How do you get rid of a pair of shoes you’ve become so emotionally, physically and mentally attached to? The answer: You won’t be able to without heartbreak.
Then there’s the idea of other shoes. There will be many pairs that appear while you’re wearing the pair you originally purchased. You may think, “Hey, those are really nice. Maybe I should try them on and see how they feel.” What happens if you want another pair while still wearing the pair you have on? Is it possible to be in love with two pairs of shoes at once? Each pair is different and each pair could offer you different forms of love.
Nonetheless, you can’t have things both ways. You can’t wear two pairs of shoes at once. You have to decide. The consequences will be difficult to endure at first. After you buy another pair, you won’t forget about your last pair of shoes. You’ll continue to reminisce about the memories you had, and at some point, you may even regret taking them off. But eventually, the old pair’s memories will fade and be replaced with new memories.
And if you decide to take off your shoes and don’t buy another pair right away, that’s okay. You’ll soon become accustomed to walking barefoot. You’ll learn more about yourself and continue to prepare yourself for the next pair of shoes that catch your eye. Then someday you’ll look back at your old pairs of shoes with a certain fondness because they now have a special place in your heart.