Wrong reason to change

No two people are the same. Although we share common interests, morals, beliefs, and skills, there will always be a difference or two. Differences what make us who we are. This is what makes the human race fascinating. We’re an exceptionally diverse group, yet we’re able to function as a society. Differences can sometimes be the root of division, but ultimately they benefit each of us.

I appreciate the differences that make me who I am. I’ve learned to love my strengths and flaws. Accepting of who you are is challenging because of the desire to fit in and be loved by all. During high school I was a people pleaser; I altered myself to make others happy. When I got to college I realized how wrong that was. Bottom line: you shouldn’t have to change for the right people.

fitting in

Today I discovered my friend has been participating in things that undermine who she is. It’s heartbreaking to watch because I know she’s only doing these things to fit in. She’s always been labeled as a “good girl” because that’s who she is (and I like that about her). Now I’m hearing stories of things she’s getting involved in that I never dreamed she would. What is she doing? Who is she becoming? I want to say something. I want to tell her she shouldn’t be changing in order to fit in with this crowd, but I’m not her mother. This is her life and if she wants to turn into someone who’s barely recognizable then I have to let her.

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