I know when you marry someone you’re marrying his family too. It’s important to fall in love with your S/O and “fall in like” with his family. I don’t want my marriage to encompass my family not getting along with my husband or vice versa. When I meet my boyfriend’s family, I secretly hope they’re the kind of people I could see spending holidays with. I didn’t feel a connection to my ex’s family – they were uptight, judgmental and superficial. After we broke up, I knew fitting into each other’s families was a crucial factor that couldn’t be overlooked in my next relationship.
After meeting my boyfriend’s family, I deemed them to be a wonderful group of people. All the joking assured me I could be myself. These were people that I could see visiting with during holidays. After being won over by his family, I hoped he would like my family, too. Over the past five months, he’d only seen my family a few times. I knew I needed to arrange some quality time, and last weekend he visited and spent Saturday evening with us.
First, we attended Mass with my siblings, and then he and I cooked a big dinner together. My family eagerly waited as we cooked chicken fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and gravy, green beans, and corn on the cob. We sat at the dining room table and chatted, laughed and chewed. Following dinner we played Apples to Apples – we laughed, teased and grumbled about my brother’s victory. When I looked to my right, I saw him laughing along with everyone – he looked like he belonged. I finally found someone who fit into my family in a good way.